I remember a time not long ago when it seemed that I could never get my kids off to school in the mornings without a whole lot of grief. It seemed that we were always running late, my house looked like a wreck, and we were all in such bad moods because Mom spent the whole time yelling, “Hurry up!” at everyone.
Then I learned about how to fix my mornings so that I didn’t experience the terrible chaos that marked each weekday morning (and Sundays too…we could never get everyone out the door to church without a bunch of yelling either). What resulted was a whole lot of peace…and more cheery hearts–for both me and the kids.
If this situation sounds suspiciously like your own, take a look at these reasons why your mornings might be killing you…
5 Reasons Why Mornings are Killing You
1. You’re tired. Every mom that I know is always tired. It’s such a cliche, but it’s a true one…it takes a lot of work to take care of children, and a home everyday. Many moms work outside the home as well, making for long, tiresome days. But unfortunately, most of us, myself included, aren’t getting enough sleep. Even though I am not perfect at this by any stretch of the imagination, I have learned to start going to bed earlier in order to get more sleep.
Now I usually get into bed as soon as my children are tucked in. I don’t go to sleep right away, but I take that time to read a book, watch one or two shows with my husband, and then go to sleep by 10 p.m. Shutting off my brain after dinner helps me to fall asleep more easily than if I stayed up writing posts or working on scrapbooking.
2. You have too much to do. How long is your to-do list? I know I routinely try to fit a whole lot of stuff onto my daily to-do list, thinking that I can squeeze things into those little pockets of down time. What ends up happening is that unexpected things come up, or tasks take me longer than I had anticipated, and then I end up behind. I tend to also volunteer for things…whether it be at church, with friends, or at my kids’ school…that take up much more time than I had budgeted for, making for sometimes crazy days.
3. You can’t fit what needs to be done into your mornings. When we first have babies, we try to get every minute of extra sleep that we can to make up for what we lose during those nighttime feedings. But if your kids have been sleeping through the night for some time, you might be missing out on a prime method for fitting more time into your day: getting up before the kids.
When I started getting up an hour before my kids, I was amazed at how much more I could get done! Having those few minutes of quiet in the morning also helped me to feel more cheerful when they did wake up because I wasn’t going from a deep sleep to non-stop chattering from two littles ones needing my attention. Instead, I had time to get my bearings and get my coffee for the day. Like I mentioned in my post on how to make your morning run more smoothly, it helps to take care of yourself before you take care of the kids.
4. You have no motivation. If you absolutely hate mornings, why bother getting up early? Well, if there is no incentive to get up, then you probably won’t do it. So it’s good to try to find the motivation to get up in the mornings…do you want some time alone before the kids get up? Do you want to read that good book without anyone bothering you? Do you just want to get out of the house in the morning without all the craziness? Try to find something that will motivate you to get your mornings in order.
5. You have no routine. Having a routine in the mornings helps everyone know what to expect. For example, in our home, the first thing we do when the kids wake up is have a few minutes of cuddle time on the couch…sometimes with a book if they get up early enough…and then we eat breakfast. After breakfast, the kids go upstairs to make their beds, get dressed and brush their teeth while I clean up the kitchen and pack their lunches. Lately, I’ve been packing the lunches during my morning time, so all I have to do is put them into backpacks. After everyone is ready, we put on our shoes and head for the bus stop.
Before we had a good routine in place, the kids would start playing with toys or try to turn on the television instead of getting ready, and I ended up prodding everyone with a stern “hurry up!” about every 30 seconds all morning long. Now they know what they need to do and it gets done with little or no reminding from Mom.
How to take back your mornings
When you read this list, things sound hopeless, and getting your mornings turned around can feel overwhelming. Here’s something to help…
How to Make Over Your Mornings
Crystal Paine, who blogs over at MoneySavingMom.com, has created a brand-new video course to help moms just like you make their mornings more successful.
Because of what I’ve learned from Crystal over the years, my mornings have evolved from chaotic to peaceful by implementing her tips and strategies. Now she’s making that all available in one easy place.
The course consists of 14 daily videos, a workbook with daily projects to help you start having better mornings. Plus, there are some great printables in the back of the workbook that you can use to help get yourself organized.
I had a chance to look through the course over the past week, and I have to say, it’s really helpful and inspiring. Being able to hear Crystal’s story from her own mouth and see how she personally puts these tips into practice is much more helpful, in my opinion, than just reading about them in an eBook. (But the workbook and printables are still pretty great!)
Head over to the Make Over Your Mornings site (affiliate link) to read more about the course and sign up to see Day One’s lesson for FREE. I think you’ll be so glad you did 🙂
P.S. If you aren’t sure you’ll love the course, Crystal will give you 100% of your money back, so there’s no harm in trying it out. 🙂